Lesson # 23- Don't stare

No matter how slick you think you are, I can always tell when someone is staring at me. And if I can, so can most other people. It's a little something called reflection. Yes, exactly! You got it! There are windows all around the trains in the subway making it really easy to see when someone is eyeing you out. I have been stared at on the subway by different people for various different reasons, I assume. It has ranged from a pervert checking out my ass to a girl judging my outfit to a child that just hasn't been taught that staring at people is just plain rude. 

The interesting thing is that people stare only because they think they can - that the person they are staring has no way of catching them. WRONG! Even though we don't have eyes on the back of our heads, most of the time is spent looking at the window directly in front (to avoid eye contact with other passengers.) Through a very simple concept I like to call reflection, it is relatively simple to figure out that, as the "starer", you can still be seen even though you are not face to face with your "staree". You know, through the reflection in the window. 

Once the "starers" have figured that out, they get smart with it by trying to incorporate a side stare into their repertoire. And again, even though were are not built like horses, with eyes on the side of our faces, there is a simple way to use the windows to detect a "starer". It is the exact same idea as the one mentioned above. All you have to do is turn your head to adjust your line of vision. Instead of looking straight ahead, look at the window at an angle. You will be able to see a lot more of the train and you will catch someone trying to side stare at you. 

Finally, when you have located whoever it is that is starting at you, do me a favor, turn to face them head on and let them know that you can see them looking at you and just watch their reaction. It really is priceless. 

So there you have lesson #23. Simply put, don't stare because even if you think you are being discreet about it, there are many ways to get caught.